How to Rid Self-Consciousness

Scenario: "Dude, I'm trying to improve my communication. But, I still suck because my words never come out right. Ahh!" The moment you're self-conscious about yourself, that's the moment your confidence level plummets.

• Why am I not speaking clearly?
• Why am is Billy not enjoying my company?
• Why can't I be more enthusiastic?
• Yadda. Yadda. Yadda.

That's when you stutter. That's when you're forgetting your words. That's when you're losing control of a situation. And that could happen at the worst possible time: sales meetings, negotiations, presentations, etc. What do you do then?

Use this sucker:

Focus fully on the outside world the moment you start feeling self-conscious. That is, instead of: "Why am I so nervous?" Start asking: "How can I make Johnny more comfortable?" Instead of: "Why can't I say something smart?" Start asking: "How can I educate Johnny?" So the moment you're feeling self-conscious, use this template:

"I will focus on the outside world."

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